This session of “Ask Dani” is in response to a question that I received from ButterPecanRican on YouTube. ButterPecanRican has regained the 80+ pounds she lost and is now trying to figure out why she failed to succeed.
Self-sabotage to me is a complicated term. This implies that we deliberately choose to put in more effort than usual, but that is not what I believe.
Every action, regardless of how it is perceived, is an effort to satisfy a personal need. Sometimes we don’t know what we are trying to fulfill, and it can appear that we are working against another desire. However, I can assure you that all actions we take in life are for a reason. When we approach ourselves with curiosity, we start to understand why we do what we do.
We are truly fascinating creatures (in the most amazing way!) ).
Below is some food for thought on self-sabotage. This is a huge topic so I am only scratching the surface. However, I would love to hear from you about your thoughts and opinions in the comments.
I don’t know how many years I spent stressing about losing weight. Although I was well-versed in nutrition and fitness, I couldn’t find the right recipe for me.
It was only then that I realized that nutrition and health were not just science, but also art. This was when I could relax and let go of my shoulders.
Our bodies cannot heal themselves when they are stressed. Our bodies must be in relaxation mode to heal and mend. Since weight loss is a form of healing, it makes sense to learn how to relax.
- Feel your feelings. Fighting against negative emotions only makes them stronger. Many people believe that if they allowed themselves to feel their deepest feelings, it would be a disaster. Remember, a feeling is just a vibration in your body. We are all made to feel all of our emotions and be able to come out the other side.
- Trust your gut instincts. No book, diet, or person can tell you more than your body. Trust your body. It is far more intelligent than your brains. Try to turn off your brain’s voices and listen to your body. Your body will guide you right, I promise.
- Rethink your definition of excess weight. Potential energy = excess weight. Ask yourself, what potential energy are you storing if you have extra weight? What would you be doing if you didn’t have to worry about losing weight? This could be energy that is used to express yourself, creativity, or withheld emotions. It is not the problem, it is the symptom. Take some time to examine yourself.
- Take deep, slow breaths. This is the fastest and most effective way to relax and get your body out of a stressful state. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to meditate for 30 minutes. Take ten deep, slow breaths next time you feel stressed out. You’ll be amazed at how quickly you can relax.
Most importantly, allow yourself to go on this journey. Weight loss is not an easy process. Be patient and compassionate with yourself.
Do you feel stressed out about trying to lose weight? Are you a victim of self-pity or resentful thoughts about weight loss? What can you do to let go of your worries about weight loss or how can you relax?