I define willpower as self-control when we believe that there is an external plan, diet, or eating method that is right for us. All we need to do is to have the willpower and the self-control to follow the rules.
If we believe that the plan is complete, it can cause us to lose touch with ourselves, our lives, and our inner knowing. Instead of using our inner wisdom to guide us towards the goal, we give up on ourselves and wonder why we don’t have the willpower or control to achieve it. You are always fighting against yourself, and you will never win.
If you’re one of those few people who can keep enough willpower and control to reach your goal, you might find that the physical goal is not met by the emotional need for freedom, confidence, and self-acceptance.
If we are willing to follow the plan, our bodies and sense of self shrink. This tradeoff is unacceptable to me.
However, SELF-DISCIPLINE is a completely different conversation.
Self-discipline for me is the process of coming to terms with your truths and then practicing being a person who lives and honors those truths.
This is not based on what others are saying about you. It is based on your own discoveries about yourself.
Self-discipline requires patience, love, compassion, and forgiveness.
You can discover what is true about yourself, your body, and your soul and then practice living the behaviors and actions that support that truth.
It’s not because you will be accepted or thin, but because it makes your feel good.
It is for this reason that I encourage you to try many different types of eating so you can find out what works for you. When I say work, what feels good is what I mean.
This does not mean that you have to eat the food on your plate. Is it in line with your lifestyle? What are your responsibilities? How much time do you need to spend on it? Etc.
If you know something is true for you then you can practice honoring it. This is what I call self-discipline which is very different from willpower and self-control.
It might not appear exactly how you expected it to.
Learn in this video
- My definition of willpower
- My definition of self-control
- Why do we sometimes feel like our bodies are constantly fighting us?
- How you feel is more important than what you look
- Accepting your body is a key step in making the journey easier
It’s your turn! You’ve probably experienced how self-control and willpower can actually hinder your efforts to lose weight and stay healthy.
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